I’m a black man dating a white man and I was most nervous about race being an issue but it’s not. I treat him very well and he puts it…like a princess…As I was growing up I was always smart and educated therefore not black enough for the ghetto students but not white enough for the white students. So I gravitated toward people who gravitated toward me because of my character which is what I’ve learned to appreciate in others. I never really dated a lot of black men in my area because of the fact that black men in my area are too ghetto and uneducated, this doesn’t strike my fancy, I want someone I can talk to and carry a conversation with not just have sex with.

With Darryl (my boyfriend), it’s more than that we actually have a relationship we know a lot of each other and are learning so much. He and I understand each other and I’m just fine with it. His Father wasn’t okay with his son dating a black man but he’s coming to grips with the reality. My family likes him a lot and it’s not a big deal in my family at all (except with one of my brothers but tough) and we are enjoying our relationship

I agree a great deal with Terry (90,91) about the whole “you’re so proper” mess, which stems from the shock of exceeding white supremacists low standards for you. Thank God I define myself through my eyes and my eyes alone. But I digress….

This topic microscopes one end of the spectrum way too much and not enough of the other end of the spectrum; the more positive naturalness, which is where I “rise” into.

Though I am very aggressive, assertive, confident, etc., I almost NEVER pursue a man because I love being pursued and I love attention and have no patience whatsoever for men afraid to approach me no matter what their color. (My energy is mostly Yin)

Being black and going into an all black bar and having guys stare at me all night without speaking to me wasn’t cutting it so I went around the corner into an all white bar and within 2 minutes someone offered to buy me a drink. Do I discount Black guys? NO!! Aside from those isolated incidences ( I haven’t been to a gay bar in years), I am hit on more by white men of all descents in every day life, though I am still open to whomever can “balance me out” energy wise. I’ve been told I’m very intimidating. Does this mean that white men are more daring? LOL

When I had my boyfriends who were non-black, there was never an issue of our ethnicity because myself and the guys I’ve been with were bigger than that. We fit together like a hand in glove. Our families all loved me/them and it was never an issue because of our “energy” and the “content of our characters”.

The only time it became an issue was when “I” had my ears pressed to the masses about the negative things people had to say about “interracial relationships”. I started interrogating my “lighter loves” making sure I wasn’t a fetish and I probed to see if was a part of a stereotype when I NEVER was. Thus, I did what that temporary madness beckoned; disconnected from what society was saying and got back to my paradise; just being myself and all will flow according to my thoughts.

My relationships have always been successful like the movie “The Bodyguard”, because focus was put on the connection of the two people involved and not skin color. I’ve researched stereotypes and never once had a “white male”, or any male for that matter, be intimidated because I made more money than him and I found it to be quite endearing when they always insisted on paying for a night out on the town.

No one ethnic group is the cream of the crop, for the one who treats you with the utmost respect, love, compassion, and sensitivity is the cream of the crop; my preference). If you go into the world thinking, “They won’t like me”, “I’m not good enough for them”, that is what the universe responds to; whereas if you walk out your door, like a little birdie I know , thinking, “I am the distilled essence of likability by all”……..

So take it from me: As long as a persons ethnicity becomes a prerequisite or a preference in your selecting a mate, YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE PROBLEMS regarding such at some point because preference for an ethnicity to the “universe” translates as “exclusion” and you will have to work that out at some point.

The remedy? Try closing your eyes and telling the universe, “Send me the best person to be with for where I am at in this moment of my life” and be open to WHOMEVER comes because the universe will ONLY respond to this according to your “vibration” (that which you put out), nothing else!!! I have every ethnicity attracted to me because I am open to every ethnicity which makes for selecting the most viable mate not even close to dismal. The challenge here is getting to know what is in your vibration and why you attract or don’t attract that which you desire.

Good luck my loves. Blessed be all.

P.S. Negativity only exists to REMIND YOU that there is an opposite!! Choose well!!!

I’ve read many of the comments here and to be honest, I was pretty surprised that so much prejudice exists within the gay community. I’m 16, white – well, I’m Jewish (and look it) so I guess some people might not consider me white – from Canada. I just recently came out to my family (who are very supportive, thank god). I’ve had 2 boyfriends so far in my life (I’m not really a hook-up kind of guy…). The first was white (didn’t want a long term relationship, broke my heart) and the second, who I’m with now and hope to be for a long time, is black. Honestly race wasn’t even a consideration for me, I just fell in love the first time I looked into his eyes. We met when I did the stupidest thing – I was staring at him as he crossed the hall at school and ran into a pillar, dropping all my stuff and he helped me pick it up. We’ve never even talked about the fact that he’s black and I’m white. The only thing we talked about as kind of strange in our relationship is the fact that he’s a year older than me so he’s graduating this year and will be going to university next year. However I have to agree with the saying “once you go black you never go back”… you all know what I mean I guess the only thing I’m maybe slightly apprehensive about him being black is that his family might not really like me. My dad has already met him and thinks he’s a great guy, but I haven’t met his parents yet, so I’m worried they’ll think I’m just sooo white and lame! Anyway… that’s my life.
<3 you guys!

I am an African living in Uganad East Africa but gay dating is not easy as it is acrime to be gay here. But we try(No coming out here)to date because people are adventurous here. I ave dated a number of guys here and suprisingly they turn out to be younger than me even by 10 years. They initiate it mostly because am of mixed race( brown tall athletic and a radio personality). So most of them are my fans-which limits my freedom. I like well built guys and since my first gay kiss in 1994 I ‘ve never looked back. However it’s tough being gay.

I am a 21 year old mixed guy. I feel like interracial dating is such sensitive subject regardless of sex orientation. Interracial straight couples and gay couples often seem to face identical problems. Coming from a mixed ethnic background (Half Brazilian and Half Spaniard) I can really say that interracial dating should just be called dating. The color of your skin does not tell what type of person your dating. I learned my lesson early on. I was only attracted to black guys (I am lightskinned brown) and I had the mentality of only dating black guys and I was causing a problem to myself. When you limit yourself for the opportunity to find love, you are never going to find that exhilaratig feeling. Be open minded and learn how to ignore racial stereotypes.
O Amor nao tem color.
El Amor no tiene color.

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